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I'm not a big fan of new year's resolutions. Why does one need to wait for some honorary time delineation in order to make statements on ways you want to change your life or person? I don't know. But I guess it's as good an excuse as any to put to writing some ideas and goals for the coming year! The sad (or maybe adult?) part of these resolutions is how many of them are going to end up directly costing money. But I guess that's ok as long as I'm getting benefit out of it well beyond the cost! I think hobbies and continued, non-career-bounded, life-learning is a fun thing. This past year I stuck my head down in the well of men's fragrances, and really feel like I came out of that with good knowledge so I don't look (and smell) like an idiot about the topic. It's not a bad idea to come up with some new topic to pursue on the year, both as a sort of hobby but also as a way to be a better person (or man). Figure out what cocktails I like and how to make/order them. I never know what I want at the bar, so I usually just get a regular ol' beer. And I certainly am lost when it comes to cocktails. I'm not a big drinker, but I do dabble in strange beers and varied wines in spurts. Why not spirits as well? I wouldn't mind dabbling in cocktails and bar drinks and becoming more familiar with and comfortable with ordering/making such and knowing what I like. Really, it's just about knowing what I like and knowing what to do when presented with a cocktail bar, both for ordering, but also fumbling my way into making something for someone else. Find a primary care doctor. I truly do not know the last time I visited a physician or primary care doctor; probably as a child, if ever. I'm not getting younger, and someday I will need medical care. And certainly it would be helpful to already have some medical history that I can refer to, like blood pressure levels, and so on. This year should be the year I begin. Have my eyes checked. This is more of a sooner-than-later thing, but it's one of those things that I easily can put off as not being immediate. I had lasik surgery about 10 years ago, but the reality is I'm the worst judge of my vision because it only gradually will get worse. I'd rather know ahead of time and be able to chart any degradation, which will almost certainly occur as I age. Find a real barber. I've had cheap haircuts for as long as I can remember, and it probably looks like it. My hair is hard to manage, but half that battle might be poor barbership. I think I know what I like now and what effort I want to spend to manage it, so getting a good barber is really the only next step I have. That and actually going in for a trim before I noticably need one... Either way, this can only be a benefit to me. Continue improving my bad habits: more exercise, more cooking my own meals. I have more specific goals here, but they're personal, really! I'd like to hit 200 lbs by summer, with a bonus of 180lbs. Also, run at least 3 times every week, 'eat out' only 2 times a week, with bonus goals of more runs a week and even looking into weight-lifting again. Honestly, I'd love to get into weight-lifting again, but I really want to start out by solidifying my eating habits and dropping some excess weight first. If I mix in weight-lifting too early, I'd have to re-work my goals because weight goals aren't compatible when you're also building dense muscle, and "how I feel" goals aren't measurable. Buy an amazing, well-fit real leather jacket for 3+ seasons. I'm not sure I've ever really had one that really fits and works for me. It's about time to, and not balk at the price. Well-fit pretty much means something that resembles typical motorcycle jackets, only less gaudy and more fashionable. Actually finish out my living room. I've had my living room basically half-outfitted for a few years now. I need a new television and entertainment stand to support it. I also should get a cabinet to hold my movies, plus another table or bookshelf for books and stuff, with a side goal of getting closed things that aren't just open-faced and gather dust. The more things I can put away somewhere in a closed piece of furniture, the better. Honestly, the biggest thing keeping me from finishing this is just the effort needed to get purchased equipment back to my place, since I don't have a large vehicle. Replace much of my work wardrobe with better-fit stuff. I'm about 10 years past college now, and just this past year I've started the process of parting with my way-too-old or never-used-in-years clothes. This also means getting new stuff, and I've become very interested in buying and wearing clothes more like a man than a boy, ya know? I even already picked up a couple suit coats...for pleasure and not just for some event! Holy crap! My pants/jeans have actually come a long way lately, but my shirts are still average fit and thus have way too much material. Really this means finding more tailored shirts that fit me, and even dabbling further in blazers/sportcoats and even a few suits. A good pair or two of dressier shoes, brogues. Plan for emergencies. Recent years and movies and events (I lost power just 2 nights ago) illustrate the need to have some sort of personal emergency planning, and I'd like to put forth some real effort to tackle this. This comes in one of two types off the top of my head: emergency "move now!" events, and emergency "stay home!" events. For events where I need to move now (fire, weather), there are plans that can be made for leaving immediately, in 60 seconds, in 60 minutes, and so on. For staying home (contagion), there are plans for surviving 1 day, 1 week, and 1 month, with whatever else comes up like personal protection, food, or the eventual need to then move (zombies!). Either way, it should be useful, to not only plan what I would do, but also acquire supplies and set them aside as well. At least, to start on this road. This is a big task, and a bit difficult for someone like me in an apartment with little storage, but a good exercise to begin tackling. Somewhat inspired by a Mogull post. Invest. I don't feel like I invest my money very well, and I'm not in the red anymore at all! This really means I need to figure out long-term investment for my future, and I should do it sooner than later. I'm probably already pretty late, and I'll admit I know almost nothing about the topic beyond what's immediately in front of me (savings account, 401K...). I should be a bit more proactive with investment. While I don't want to make monetary goals this year, I really want to at least dive into some research and maybe even find a personal advisor to fill in the gaps in my knowledge, plus dip my toe into whatever works for me. As long as I have the luxury of living in the black, I really need to keep this resolution moving forward.
.:posted at 02:50 PM
Recently I've had the opportunity to try out two thermos-like mugs for tea and latte drinking at work and home. The first is the Therm-O by Aquaovo. The second is a Contigo Autoseal tumbler.
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Overall, the Therm-O is sexy and it's nice to support a smaller shop, but be aware of the drawbacks of this tumbler. If you work around them, such as keeping it at home for general use, it's quite a nice purchase. I doubt I'd let it leave the home, though, due to its drawbacks. Works great with a different filter like the medium Finum brewing basket.
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I really can't say enough how much I love this mug. It really is one of my best three purchases of the year, and I'd really consider it habit-changing, if not lifestyle changing. I've never before bothered to bring my mug into the coffee shop and have them fill it rather than use a cup from the store, but finally I'm actually enthused to do so because this mug actually enhances my experience.
.:posted at 04:41 PM
Just a quick update. When I did my earlier look on the types of fragrances, I really didn't have a guide to go by, so I sort of made a list that reflected my slim experiences and observations and reading elsewhere. Now I've found this moreorless "official" list of olfactory families listed out on Wikipedia, and mine matches up pretty nicely. I even got some of the traditional terms slotted correctly! While my list doesn't quite match up, it's still all a pretty subjective "science" that can be different for each person. So really, it's just about grouping scents together to aid in the classification and efficient selection of desired outcomes that is the important part. For instance, I dig incense or even spicy sorts of scents, but they're really not easily slotted into the types on Wikipedia. I'd also group citrus in with fruity, largely because they are similar to me, and Vanilla scents don't necessarily mean "food" to me either, but sort of complement woody undertones or spicy overtones. Here's a revamping of my own list that I'll try out.
Given time and experience, I'd probably chop up the "woodsy" category, since that is pretty big and can go from deep woody up to clean grassy scents. I might even split out citrusy from the fruity, only because they're a more natural scent versus largely synthetic fruits. Anyway, just throwing up some more information!
.:posted at 08:48 AM
I've recently been transitioning myself from extremely casual user of men's colognes into a more informed, deliberate sort of fragrance consumer. I've also been purposely checking out some of the "indie" sorts of fragrance suppliers. While normal things in a typical not-cheap department store in Iowa are quite nice, the problem is millions of other men buy the same thing, and millions of women will probably have smelled those colognes and already associate that scent with someone else for better or more likely for worse. So, being a bit unique is a plus. Besides, just like most anything, you can't know a good wine if you've not played the field to sample good and bad, and the same goes for enjoying fragrances. Here are some of my current interests... DS & Durga is an indie line out of New York and they have some absolutely amazingly masculine, long-lasting scents that are sometimes a bit surprising. Of the few I've tried, I really was surprised to like "Mississippi Burning," which has a strong incense, woodsy scent to it. I also am getting used to "Freetrapper" and "Staghorn Sumac," both of which are outdoorsy scents and all three of which I prefer to wear casually. I also have a sample of "Burning Barbershop," and while the initial smell is heavy on the spearmint side, upon putting it on, that fades away into an amazingly unique scent that lives up to its name (tip: always try things on, don't go by the top note only!). I haven't tried most of their line, but so far they're all excellent quality. If asked nicely, I bet they're sell a range of samples. It's not an "indie" brand by any means, but probably my current favorite casual cologne is Pour Homme by Van Cleef & Arpels, with notes of spices, incense, and woods. I found Cirmes Tonsorial Parlour online and it just so happens to be based in Des Moines as well. It also just so happens to have some really nice colognes and very accurate descriptions on the site. My favorite is probably "Sapera" which is a bit spicy with some incense to it. But I also like most of the rest. "Fougere" smells like earth and grass, which I really dig in a masculine casual scent. "Mouchoir" smells like spring breeze-dried freshly cleaned clothes and "Monsieur Jameson" is a bit more buttery but still pleasant after the top notes fade off. Clearly, my descriptions pale in comparison to the site itself! A bit on the more expensive end would be some other favorites like "Amanu" and "Owari" by Odin. Both are very rich, deep, masculine spicy/woody scents that are well worth the money. For trying out new scents from the indie world, it's hard to do better than hitting up the indiescents.com site. They sell samples and have an extensive selection of men's and unisex scents. Awesome stuff! I've recently gotten a nice selection from them and so far really enjoying their wares. On a quick kneejerk reaction, I totally dig Slumberhouse's Jeke which smells exactly like burning autumn woods, which is perfect for the season! But really, this is a great place to start expanding through indie perfumers. Another place to explore new, usually unique scents, though you have to brave their site and wade through literally *hundreds* of choices, would be the Black Phoenix Alchemy Lab. You can purchase samples of most anything, and it's a great way to smell new things and find out what you like or don't like. For masculine stuff, it helps to spend some time on their forums to research that actual topic, or just ask. I do have a few favorites from the usual department stores. Yves Saint Laurent's La Nuit De L'homme (later this year I want to check out Libre), Colonia by Acqua di Parma, Zegna Colonia, Sexual by Michel Germain, and so on. However, I must say I think all of these will be supplanted by stuff I purchase online in the next year or less. Not only are "indie" fragrances unique, but they have some amazing quality, and I'm more than happy to support their work.
.:posted at 02:46 PM
FRAGRANCE SHOPPING TIPS When trying out fragrances, it is important to take note of how long a scent lasts when used on the skin. Some fragrances last a whole day while others may only last 3-4 hours. This isn't necessarily a reflection on their quality, but certainly should be taken into consideration when trying new stuff out. Be unique! Don't purchase any cologne from a major department store that is packaged in a hard plastic shell that either need to be cut to open or cuts fingers in the process. That stuff is cheap. Also, try to avoid the same thing that millions of men have picked up from the men's cologne counters at major department stores. Only get something like that if it's new or an absolute must have. But remember, the more widespread a cologne is, the more ladies will already associate it with someone in their past, for better or more likely worse. Usually, the more unique a guy can smell, the better. And that usually means going out of the way to find "indie" or regional suppliers, which is actually a good thing anyway! (More on this in the future.) Wear it! Testing men's fragrances is an art. A decent decision can't be made by just dropping by the colognes counter and spritzing a bit in the air. Two things need to be done. First, wear some on the skin to see how it may change and react with natural skin oils. Second, smell the deeper notes of the cologne which can only be revealed after an hour or two of use. Alternately, use the little cards near the tester bottles to allow the frangrance to evaporate without committing to wearing it all day. Scent is also a subjective art, what smells good to one, smells bad to another. What ellicits wonderful memories in one, is flat and meaningless to someone else. None is better, except in the eyes of the beholder. Samples! When testing out new colognes always buy the smallest size available. Online, many suppliers will sell you sample-sized vials, which makes for a tremendously awesome way to try new things without spending too much or wasting product. (More on that in the future.) In a department store, don't let the associate upsell the gift pack with aftershave; no one uses all of that stuff. Always ask for the smallest, since the associate will always push to the biggest purchase they can. Showing some interesting in a product, or maybe a simple smile and inquiry can even score some free take-home samples. Sample often! With regular testing of colognes comes the ability to recognize and even gravitate towards appropriate masculine scents, such as woody notes or whatever fits a given personality. Maybe citrusy or even flowerly or spicey or strange things. The more scents tried, the more one can intelligently read descriptions or ingredient lists and already get an idea of the result. It also becomes easier t to figure out what colognes are cheap and wear away after a few hours, and which ones can last the whole day. How to wear cologne. Wear cologne on skin (or possibly hair), not on clothes which may get stained. Scents also are enhanced by warmer spots on the body, typically places like your neck, chest, base of the ears, inner wrists, and even underarms. Youtube.com videos make for good visual instruction on some of these warm zones. I personally spritz once on the neck and once on each inner wrist. Generally speaking, other people should only catch a worn fragrance in one of two ways. First, when in close proximity to the wearer (intimate or just conversational distance). Second, the waft of scent when walked past. A man's fragrance shouldn't fill the room or be smelled much when not in one of the two above situations. Also, be cognizant that sensitivity to one's own smell decreases over time, so don't start wearing more just because it seems like it isn't as strong anymore. When in doubt, ask someone if it's too strong today! How not to wear cologne. Don't wear too much. Don't spray the air and leap/run through it. Not only does this look stupid, but all the heavier, better, parts of the spray will have fallen to the floor before you fairy leap into it. Never mix colognes or put another one on without properly washing off the previous (which itself usually involves scented soap, which means probably not applying cologne onto it right away). There are exceptions, but only if you know what you're doing and say, add a single scent note (like vanilla or amber) onto an already-applied cologne. Any other mixing is going to be awful. Cologne does have a shelf life! This may not be readily apparent because it can still smell like something even after 4 years, but that old fragrance wears off within minutes, and smells neutral. In fact, any 4 different colognes that are 4 years old can probably smell all the same. Ideally, use colognes within a year. If they're older than a year, then either they're not being used or too much was purchased. Learn from those mistakes and right-size future purchases. But don't be afraid to try more! It's common when discovering preferred fragrances to be stuck with more than can be used. Rather than throw excess away, giving extra products to others makes for a good way to share the adventure of smell with someone else.
.:posted at 02:43 PM
I've long been a casual user of men's colognes, probably since I was given some of my dad's old stuff when I was a kid, but didn't really use any until sometime in high school (Obsession, Hugo Boss...). Now that I'm progressing into a maturing period of my life, I'm diving back into being more aware of and deliberate with my cologne choices, as a sort of casual-but-informed consumer. To start out, here are some guidelines I've run across from various sources or experiences. I'll probably use the terms perfume or fragrances or scents in lieu of "cologne," just because I'm already getting snobby that way. I won't be too detailed, because the Internet is an easily-searchable treasure trove of information on any subject. I'll just go over things I've learned that may be useful for other beginners, and also things I just want to reinforce to myself. TYPES There are generally two categories of fragrances: formal and informal. Formal stuff tends to be cleaner, universally accepted, and less punchy. Informal scents can be punchier, unique, or a little more in your face and reflective of your personality. Two sub-types of informal scents may be daily that you can pair with any clothes you have or maybe something for the evening that you'd wear on a hot date or night at a club. For men, there are several very general scent types I go by:
Almost every fragrance can be nicely slotted into one of the above general scent types, and can help eliminate undesired options before even trying them out. SCENT NOTES In the perfumery world there are scent notes. Perfume is made up of oils which give off scents until they evaporate. Various different oils evaporate at different rates. Mixing a few different oils into a single perfume, all of which evaporate at different rates and give off different scents as they do, create what are called notes. Generally speaking, men's colognes have 3 distinct notes to pay attention to:
Understanding and experiencing these notes opens up deeper understanding on how to read other perfume reviews or even perfumer details on their official websites. While most mainstream colognes found in general department stores don't typically go into detail on their scents, many smaller perfumers will specifically spell out their intentions with each note. Parting shot: Lots of guys gain hobbies as they get older, like making beer or making jewelry or restoring old cars. Basically things that are fun, casual, but can transition into a small side project that generates a bit of income or family christmas gifts. I honestly wouldn't be opposed at all to making perfumery (alchemy?) one of mine in the future!
.:posted at 02:41 PM
Some dressier sock brands I like. Strange that I think these are all UK brands. And I do like a bit of color in my socks. I'm not terribly colorful with the rest of my work clothes, so I do like to surprise a bit with my socks. Happy Socks
.:posted at 11:45 PM
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Overall, I think I'm currently satisfied enough with these earphones to not bother looking at any others for the moment!
.:posted at 02:02 PM
Men's jewelry is pretty stylish these days. Here's a few related links I'd like to keep around. Ettika has some absolutely awesome bracelets for prices that you really can't easily beat unless you happen to find some local shop by accident. Their deerskin leather is stunningly soft, too. Good Wood is a good source for wood bead bracelets. Light on the wrist, stylish, and stretchy. For more substantial (solid, weighty) beads, try to find DyOh pieces online. It's hard to look in any men's magazines this year without seeing at least one mention of a Miansai bracelet. They're definitely pretty in, and while not cheap, they're not even close to spendy when you start looking around at designer jewelry pieces. Burkman Brothers have stylish friendship bracelets available. Again, you can find these cheaper, if you want to take the time to scour your town. My newest pieces come from a random internet search that landed me on the Kiss2Keep etsy shop. Excellently rugged (manly!) leather and metal multi-wraps. Watches are timeless, but these days watches can also represent one of the few places where you can splash a little contrasting color without looking like a fool; they really don't need to match at all as long as they stay simple. Like slap-wrist watches from Cloud9.
.:posted at 10:29 PM
I am just recording a few links for my own future use. Both Modern Tailor and Thread Tradition specialize in online-ordered custom tailored shirts, and in the case of the former, lots of other clothing as well. Sounds crazy, yeah? But the neat thing is they walk you through all the measurements you need to make, and boom, create your clothing. This is especially nice if you already have a shirt that fits perfectly, you can just take measurements straight off it.
.:posted at 05:56 PM
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